how to take dating rejection

Six months ago, after a rejection, I wrote this on Reddit:

Here's more of what I believe, in present day:

• Good relationships should feel easy, at least at the start. IMO. Years apart, I asked two different friends what they liked about their partners—or maybe how their relationship was going (I forget the exact wording). Both times, they smiled and said, “It’s easy.” That answer stuck with me. I don’t think “easy” means the relationship doesn’t take effort—it does. But the effort shouldn’t feel heavy or forced. This feels definitely true during the early stages. If you have to bend over backward to convince someone to date you, or if spending time together feels like a chore, that doesn't sound right. Look for a feeling of naturalness or ease. It’s a good sign you’re on the right track.
• A friend told us once, “You can’t make someone like you.” I think it’s best to keep that in mind. Yeah, bring your best self and try to impress someone on a date. But if they’re not into you, don’t force it. Move on and make room for someone who is.

If you vibe with any of this, check out my two favorite dating books: Models by Mark Manson and How Not to Die Alone by Logan Ury. They both do a great job of helping with the right mindset 😊